When Identity Breaks Down
Initiation & Integration
Dark Retreats, life transitions, breakdowns, losses, and identity shifts all share one thing:
My work is not about creating intensity.
Life already does that.
My role is to help you meet what is happening with enough safety, orientation, and support so it can be integrated rather than fragmenting you.
How I support you
My work is to support people before, during, and after experiences of intensity, including Dark Retreats and major life transitions, so what opens can be met, integrated, and lived rather than overwhelming the system.
Below are the ways this support can take form.
WHAT TO EXPECT
My Role
I don't act as a teacher, healer, or authority over your experience.
I function as a regulating presence and guide through moments that cannot be rushed or fixed.
I help you:
- stay oriented when certainty collapses
- recognize what is completing instead of resisting it
- move through intensity without overriding your system
- integrate insight into daily life, not just peak experience
This work is informed by years of guiding Dark Retreats, holding long-term processes, and living my own initiations.
Preparation & Integration
Preparation Sessions
For those approaching a Dark Retreat or entering a major life transition. We work with nervous system readiness, expectations, orientation, and pacing.
Integration Sessions
For what surfaces during or after intense experiences. We slow down the process so what emerged becomes embodied, meaningful, and lived. This work also applies when there is no physical retreat, but life itself has become the dark room.
Ongoing Containers
Unlikely do initiations resolve in a single session.
For longer passages, I offer ongoing containers that provide:
- continuity and pacing
- relational stability during change
- space for truth to unfold over time
These containers are shaped together, based on your needs and capacity.
Advisory Work
Unlikely do initiations resolve in a single session.
For longer passages, I offer ongoing containers that provide:
- continuity and pacing
- relational stability during change
- space for truth to unfold over time
These containers are shaped together, based on your needs and capacity.
Advisory Work for
Retreat Centers
Alongside individual work, I act as an advisor for retreat centers and facilitators.
This includes:
- guidance on building and holding Dark Retreat containers
- preparation and integration frameworks
- discernment around safety, readiness, and responsibility
My advisory role draws on over a decade of building, managing, and ultimately letting go of my own retreat center, as well as current collaborations with Acraya.
Advisory work is offered by conversation.
“Initiation is not something we do.
It’s something that happens to us.”
~ Francis Weller
PRICES
Initiation & Integration Sessions
Support for Dark Retreats, life transitions, and moments when identity no longer fits. We move at the speed your system can integrate.
Intense experiences don’t need interpretation first they need orientation. I work with people in focused sessions that support preparation, integration, and nervous system regulation before, during, or after periods of intensity.
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Preparation & Integration
For what has already opened
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Ongoing Session
For longer passages where one session is not enough.
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Advisory Retreat Centers
For professionals & centers Advisory Work
WHEN EXPERIENCE NEEDS INTEGRATION
What Emerges Needs
Time to Land
Intense experiences don't end when the retreat is over. Insight needs time, relationship, and nervous system support to become lived. This is where integration begins.